you have to remember: stipe is a wry guy. and, he tends to come at things from multiple angles at the same time.

what he's getting at is the unrealistic nature of the expectation, but he's balancing out the selfishness of suicide with the right to it.

are those the eyes that the narrator really wants the listener to remember?
eyes that shiver and fold?
is the narrator truly not creating a burden?
truly holding these things inside?
and how can you look the narrator in the eye, when these words are coming out?

should the narrator be surprised that the listener is shivering?

but, the sum total is simply an exploration of how difficult the situation is.

i don't think he really comes to a total conclusion.