Wednesday, November 6, 2019

the reality is that i don't think it's ever actually come up, because i don't tend to be drawn to those kinds of places, anyways. i don't recall ever being turned away anywhere. but, i don't have any memories of actually going anywhere that would make it an issue or want to turn me away, either. 98% of the time that i'm in a bar, it's to see a concert and, for the other 2% of the time, i would naturally avoid a place like that out of reflex, and seek out the dive bar down the street, instead. i've never had a group of friends that would say "let's go to this bar with a dress code", either - i've always preferred social groups that consist of anarchists, punks and nerds that would rather hang out in dive bars, in the first place.

that night that i got thrown out of the works probably had a lot do with what i was wearing, but it was a gender expression thing. i never really got a straight answer, but i appear to have upset some guys at the bar via a combination of turning on their girlfriends and confusing them about what my gender was. i was there on that night to see allessandro cortini, and he seems to have attracted a lot of heteronormative meatheads to what is generally a sleazy dance bar. so, yes - they probably threw me out for what i was wearing, but it was more of a gender thing than a class thing, and all i can do is point out that it reflects exceedingly poorly on the bar owners and management. the bar has since closed.

i have no other examples.

and, my only request to the new detroit is that they tell me before hand so i can avoid anywhere that wants to put one down.